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> women who have no interest in me

You make it sound like all women are the same. They're not. Of course not all women are going to be interested in you, just like you're probably not interested in all women.

But if really no women want to have anything to do with you, maybe it's time to ask yourself why. How do you behave? Are you doing anything to put them off? Is there a chance you secretly think that as a man you should be entitled to sex with a woman? Some men do think like that, and of course they are wrong, and it's a terrible basis for a real relationship. There are also men who think it's normal to behave like an asshole, a creep or a jerk. It is not, of course.

It is possible to improve yourself and become a better person. It's something everybody should strive for.

Of course another issue could be that both men and women have become too picky for their own good. I know a guy who wants a girlfriend who is young and pretty, despite him not being all that young and pretty anymore. I also see plenty fo women complain that they can't find a man. If women can't find men and men can't find women, perhaps both are doing something wrong. (And as a possible culprit, I'd like to point to Hollywood, which has been poisoning our perception of what a romantic relationship looks like with totally unrealistic expectations.)

Also, have you tried dating sites? They have the advantage that they get the initial awkward "are you even in the market?" out of the way, and you get to focus more on real interests rather than just the superficial picture. (Although lots of men also behave really badly on dating sites, inundating women with impersonal messages and calling them names when they don't respond. Don't be like that.)



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